Give The Gift of Presence

It seems everywhere I turn, the word “presence” is coming up. To me, presence means being mindful, aware and focused on who I’m with or what I’m doing. I’ll be honest, it’s not always easy to do. I find myself multi-tasking when my husband is talking to me, texting my cousins while cooking, or noticing my mind wandering when talking with friends. I’m working on it. I know how great it feels when I have someone’s full attention, so I want to give that gift of presence to my loved ones. 

As a coach, maintaining presence is one of the eight core competencies required for earning a credential from the International Coach Federation (ICF). My Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential means I successfully demonstrated this competency during the recorded coaching session I submitted to ICF. Maintaining presence is paramount to effective coaching. Here is the ICF’s definition for competency #5: Maintains Presence:

Is fully conscious and present with the client, employing a style that is open, flexible, grounded and confident

The ICF also has accompanying language around maintaining presence that includes remaining focused, observant, empathetic, and curious. In addition, maintaining presence includes managing emotions and creating and allowing space for silence, pause or reflection.

Powerful, right?! What would happen if I bring this competency of maintaining presence to other areas of my life, not just with my clients? How might my relationships deepen and strengthen? What might I notice about myself and others? 

I am committed to being more mindful and present with everyone in my life, not just with my coaching clients. Will you join me? This holiday season, give the gift of presence.